Well Being, LLC
Stacey J. Nyman, MS, NCC, LPC
Welcome and thank you for your interest in Well Being, LLC
Seeking help is often a difficult and confusing process- sometimes it comes after months or even years of suffering. I try to make this process less difficult by creating a warm and non-threatening environment. Most of us have experienced difficult periods in our lives where no matter how hard we try to make a situation better it seems to stay the same or possibly even get worse. It can begin to feel frustrating, overwhelming and even hopeless. Whether you are seeking a couple of sessions for crisis management or whether you desire longer term assistance, counseling can help make a significant difference.
I am dedicated to providing you with the highest level of care. I truly feel honored to be a counselor and hold each person with the highest regard. I encourage you to email me or call me with any additional questions.
Providing individual counseling for adults (18+):
Alcohol abuse and addiction
*****Please note that I do not work with children or couples.
How Therapy Works
I am often asked how counseling and therapy work. This not an easily answered question, because there are multiple factors that impact the effectiveness of counseling:
Client – personality and past experiences.
Therapist – personality, treatment approach, experience and training.
Nature of the issue– situational vs. more enduring problem.
Readiness for change – how bad has the problem gotten? Are the negative consequences significant enough to motivate a commitment to change?
However, current research supports the key to successful outcomes is the therapeutic relationship (Miller, S.). The therapeutic relationship is the and between the client and the therapist. So what makes up the therapeutic alliance? Often times it is experienced as merely the chemistry and comfort between the client and therapist. Carl Rogers, one of the founding fathers of psychology, states that the therapeutic relationship must contain three key elements. The client must feel that his or her therapist is genuine, he must feel respected for his or her uniqueness and the client must feel that the therapist understands his or inner thoughts and feelings.
The therapeutic relationship is the foundation of all therapeutic work. Let’s face it, if you are not comfortable to honestly express and explore yourself with your therapist how effective can therapy really be? Additionally, think about the times when you have worked your hardest and achieved your best. Personally I always accomplish more when there is a mutual respect and fondness regardless of the environment (work, school, sports). Bottom line… I work harder for people I like and respect and who mutually like and respect me.
Because I believe that the therapeutic relationship is the pillar of successful therapy my strongest emphasis is on you the individual. No two people or situations are identical and so my approach is based on your unique needs and goals. A strong therapeutic relationship is an invaluable framework for you to explore and learn more about yourself. In addition to the therapeutic relationship there are many possible benefits of counseling:
Counseling is follows the same life tenant that “the more that you put into something the more you get out of it”. I hope that you will have the opportunity experience how counseling can help you overcome problems that you have been struggling with for years.
Why should I consider therapy?
In our society today of flashing video games, vibrating texts and beeping phones it’s no wonder that the year swirls by faster than the last. No doubt that i-phones, texting, cell phones, facebook and twitter help us to keep in touch, live more productively and aid us in many aspects of our daily lives. BUT, in the hustle and bustle of our daily lives of work, family, socializing, household responsibilities, benevolent endeavors, when do make time for understanding our own thoughts, emotions and behaviors? Do we muddle through life handling the next task in front of us or are we living consciously? What does it even mean to live life consciously? To live life consciously means to know who you are, your likes and dislikes, it means exploring where you have been, where you are now and where you are going. It means being honest with yourself and it means having the courage to feel the truth.
In my experience as a counselor, I have seen many clients disconnect from their emotional selves in an effort not to feel. Sometimes, we disconnect from our emotional selves so that we don’t have to experience pain, embarrassment, sadness, sometimes we even resist feeling joy, pride or happiness. Yet, we are given the ability to experience emotion just as we are given the ability to experience physical pain. As physical pain is necessary as an indicator to aid in our safety and wellbeing equally imperative to our wellbeing are our emotions. If we ignore the important emotional aspect of ourselves we lack very valuable information in managing our lives. More importantly, we stray from truth which thwarts us from our highest good. At its worst, straying from this path of truth can eventually lead to an unfulfilling life, depression, anxiety or perhaps even a physical manifestation of the pain (our bodies will get our attention one way or another).
So…I encourage you to take time to live life consciously, to ask yourself the difficult questions and most importantly to be honest with yourself. It is paramount to have a dedicated time and place to explore and ponder yourself. Sometimes that could be through journaling, prayer, meditation, friendship and at other times it may mean that you need someone to guide you through this exploration. At its best, therapy provides a safe place, providing accountability and objectivity. Therapy is not magic (my hairdresser’s plaque above her mirror comes to mind it reads “I am a beautician…not a magician”), it won’t necessarily solve all of your problems or “fix you” and sometimes change seems like an arduous uphill battle. But like life, therapy is a journey worth taking. I hope that you find the time to live life consciously this year better yet…this decade.